There’s nothing like Perfect Parenting
Hello every one, here’s the fifth(5th) post of the blog series – The ‘Un’-common Tales of common people. This post is written by a strong mother of a fighter baby & I know her from the time our kids were little babies. Guys, meet Sonam Patel. She has shared her parenting journey which is not at all an easy one. Her son was born prematurely with a lot of complications & had to go through surgery at 3 months. Her story is heartbreaking, every time I read it, I get tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat.
But, this mom-son duo is a fighter and they can teach you how to live life with a smile on your face even when you are in deep pain.
Now, a little something about this blog series. I strongly believe that each one of us has a ‘voice’ that can make an impact, the ‘power’ to inspire others and the ‘experience’ that could help someone else. But not everyone has a platform to reach out to others and share their experiences with them. Hence, this series, where you will get to read the ‘Un’- common tales of common people who have the power to inspire and bring the change. This series is a small token of thanks to those people who have always supported me in my journey.
Read the first post of the series here – Take professional help!
Read the 2nd post of the series here – How to rediscover yourself after having a baby?!
And, read the 3rd post of the series here – Appreciation Matters!
You may read the 4th post here – A Mother’s fight to free her child from Autism!
If you, too, have been a part of our blog’s journey and wish to be a part of this series, you can reach out to me on Instagram. No bloggers, please!
Now, let’s read Sonam’s post.
There’s nothing like Perfect Parenting
Motherhood means discovering new possibilities and capabilities within oneself. It’s the most beautiful feeling but sometimes comes with lots of challenges. Hello everyone, I am Sonam Patel, mom to a three and half-year-old boy. Parenting proved to be a roller coaster ride yet the most incredible journey for us.
I delivered in 33 weeks because the growth of the baby stopped completely. It was an emergency c-section. The first three days went well, but after that, the health of the baby started deteriorating and he was shifted to the NICU. The sample was sent for the TORCH test and Rubella was found positive.
You may also read – Preterm Baby Care Tips for New Moms!
Rubella affects the ear, eyes, brain, heart, and overall growth of the baby. So. it was complete damage for us. He had a hole in his heart, cataract in eyes and there was already a delay in his growth. Later, we discovered hearing loss in one ear too. Somehow brain seemed fine, but again the development was slow. This shook us totally. But, we didn’t have any option rather than fighting back.
Developmental delays & Surgery
Nisham was just 3 months old when he went through his left eye surgery. This was the toughest phase as he was suffering a lot. In the fourth month, the right eye surgery was done. Both surgeries went fine. But he went through a lot of pain. He would cry the whole night and wouldn’t feed at all. He started wearing spectacles with power as high as +20 when he was just 6 months old. When he was 9 months old, he went through his heart surgery.
The doctor had said that he will have developmental delays. So, we started with his physiotherapy when he was nearing his first birthday. He started holding neck around 10 months, he started sitting before his second birthday and started walking before his third birthday. He still can’t speak, although he is now able to express better. We have to start speech therapy now. But, due to the COVID-19 situation, the therapies are at bay.
For all the parents out there, there’s nothing like perfect parenting. People will judge you no matter what you do. It’s always better to listen to your own instincts and do whatever suits you. It’s your child and you will know what’s good for him/him. Never lose hope and you will rock it!
A proud stay at home mommy to a fighter baby, Nisham. I am basically from Bihar, residing in Kolkata. I am freelancing as an English- Hindi translator. My only motive is to create awareness and show a ray of hope to someone who is struggling with parenting. You can know more about our journey through my Instagram handle- @sonamm_patel. Do follow us and show some love.
Sonam, more power to you, dear. And blessings to little Nishu, I am very sure he will win this fight. He’s the strongest baby I know. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
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