Finding My Jeevansathi on Jeevansathi dot com | Part 2

Finding My Jeevansathi

Hello lovely people, how’s February treating you? Since this is the month of love and also my anniversary month, I wanted to share my unconventional arranged marriage story with you all. In the first part of this post, “Finding Love in Arranged Marriage,” I shared my ordeal of meeting with families to find a perfect partner for marriage. It was quite a daunting task for me and even more distressing for my parents. Today, I am sharing this story of finding my Jeevansathi on Jeevansathi dot com. 

Yesterday was Rose Day, the first day of Valentine’s week! I almost forgot about it this year. But as I opened my eyes in the morning, I saw my husband standing near the bed with a cute bouquet of roses in his hands. My son was also there with him, trying to understand what was going on. Even though my excitement for the love month is fading with age, my husband remembers how this time of year used to make me go crazy with excitement. It was a sweet surprise that made butterflies flutter in my tummy once again. It also made me wonder, does this count as true love?

This took me down memory lane, to the time when I had almost given up on the idea of finding the right match for me, let alone finding love. But it found me. Let me take you on this adventure of how I found my Jeevansathi (life partner) on Jeevansathi dot com.

Finding Jeevansathi

As I was working with a company in Gurgaon at the time, we would only get the weekends to discuss this topic. My parents tried everything to make me understand the importance of marriage. It was like a tug of war, with me trying to live my life in the present and my parents worrying about my future. Then, there came a saturation point when I told them that I would marry anyone they would choose for me without asking any questions.

You know what that meant? It meant I just wanted to get it over with as I couldn’t take it anymore. I started binge-eating and losing my sleep. Within two months, I gained almost 7 kgs. I was always in a depressed mood and I stopped going out on the weekends too. In short, I was losing it!

There’s a pattern I have noticed in my life since childhood. Whenever I hit my lowest, I get this energy to start all over again. An invisible hand holds me and walks me to the right path. Does it happen with you too?

I had understood one thing by then; I could not escape marriage. While I thought I had agreed to what my parents wanted, I had actually made their task much more difficult. No parent can see their child suffering. And, similarly, no child can see their parents helpless.

Then came a day when I sat down with my mother and made a complete plan of how to go about it.

The first task was to take control of my life, my health and my mind. And, to do that I took 3 major steps:

  • I left my job (as it was taking all my time & energy)

  • Made a profile on Jeevansathi.com (as I wanted to try a different approach)

  • Joined swimming, aerobics and yoga classes (as I had to get back my health)

I set a target; by the end of 2014, I would find a man to call mine.

Now, I was spending most of my time on the matrimony website. Within a few weeks, I became a pro in shortlisting and interacting with potential profiles. I knew exactly what to ask for them to move on to the next level. It may sound like HR shortlisting candidates for a job. But it was much more serious than that.

I had made a rule that I would first chat with the person online for a week or two. If everything felt good, then I would move to calls and next to meeting. But I was looking for a person who could make his own decisions. Someone who is progressive in their thinking, mature and dependable. Most importantly, someone whose family listens to them and respects them.

On 28th August 2014, I got a request on my Jeevansathi profile. It was a perfect match as per the website.

I followed the next steps, chatted with the person for a week to understand what he was looking for in his future partner. When I felt this could be taken ahead, I showed the profile to my mother.

After that, we started talking on the phone, and it just clicked. After 15 days, we decided to meet. For our first meeting, I brought my mother along, just in case. I still remember that day clearly; we went to Moti Mahal Delux and ordered some snacks. He seemed confident meeting a girl and her mother for the first time, all alone. I liked that!

My mother was happy!

On the other hand, I was super nervous; couldn’t even talk properly, couldn’t even take a bite of food.

I couldn’t understand what was happening to me. No, it was not love at first sight! For sure 😀

Or, was it? I am still not sure, haha!

Anyways, that meeting was successful. Now, we started meeting every weekend. We were dating!

True love is elusive. Love never comes walking towards you. Some people may stumble upon it by chance but even then, they have to nurture it to see it grow. What do you think?

I don’t know if matrimonial websites still work or not in finding the right alliance, but it worked for me!

If you think the story ends here, you are wrong. We had a breakup-like situation just a month into the courtship period. Who was at fault? Stay tuned to find out!


This is my story of finding a Jeevansathi; want to share yours?


This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Bohemian Bibliophile.
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    Swarnali Nath February 9, 2024 at 10:33 am - Reply

    Dear Neha, thank you so much for sharing your story. I am dwelling in the same state right now, have started exploring matrimony websites from last year. Yet to find my jeevansathi but your words resonated a lot with me and I specially loved the two quotes you shared. Absolutely loved your writing style. Looking forward to read more from you.

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      Neha Sharma February 9, 2024 at 4:49 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much, Swarnali, for taking the time to read my story and for sharing your own experience. Remember, finding a jeevansathi takes time, and I’m confident that the right person will come into your life at the perfect moment. I’m glad you loved my writing style. Your encouragement means a lot to me and I truly appreciate your support. <3

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    Star February 13, 2024 at 12:25 am - Reply

    Hi Neha 👋
    Thanks for sharing your arranged marriage story with such details. I could relate to your story as I was in the same boat few years ago. For me, everything was happening in such a flow that each meeting led to one or the other event/ritual associated with marriage. I didn’t have courtship period and no chance to date ,which kind of scared me to hell,but all the things turned out well at the end. So, I feel that Arranged marriages are pure gamble and based on past/present life Karma. We’re not the lovey-dovey couple ,we don’t celebrate Valentine’s week or day, but we just enjoy each other’s presence in our lives. Now,After some years of my life, I feel that even if there was a courtship period for us, my husband, being a shy and always occupied once , would’ve never utilised it.

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      Neha Sharma February 14, 2024 at 1:22 pm - Reply

      Hi there! Thanks a bunch for reading my story and sharing your own journey. It’s great to hear that everything turned out well for you both in the end. Arranged marriages can definitely feel like a roll of the dice but it’s heartening when things work out beautifully. It’s cool that you and your husband have your own way of showing love, even if it’s not through the typical Valentine’s Day celebrations. Sometimes, just enjoying each other’s company is the best gift of all. Life has a funny way of working out sometimes!Thanks again for sharing your story. Wishing you and your husband continued happiness and love!

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    Preeti Chauhan February 22, 2024 at 6:29 pm - Reply

    I have not been on that route but as my children grow up I am sure I may have to take that route that is if they agree to marry. I have my reservations about going onto the matrimonial site for the risk of fraud and exploitation, but I think the platforms now are quite user-friendly, and judging by your experience it seems they are a great way to meet up with potential partners and see how it pans out.

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    sadvik kylash February 23, 2024 at 8:51 pm - Reply

    That’s quite a story. I did not get into any matrimonial sites but mine was a like, in relation some far of relation.

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    Sakshi Varma February 24, 2024 at 1:27 pm - Reply

    This was a fun read for me – since I only ever had one boyfriend who I married, I have absolutely no sense of arranged marriages or those arranged online! (Even my sibling and cousins all had love marriages!) Looking forward to read about the ‘near break up’!

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    Kaveri Chhetri February 24, 2024 at 4:41 pm - Reply

    matrimony sites still work as my close friend got married last April through one. it’s nice of you to share your love story Neha… n I m curious to know what happened next. btw, was your prospective beau ok when he saw you with your mum on your first meeting? hahaha!!!

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    Chandrika February 24, 2024 at 9:29 pm - Reply

    Hi Neha. Glad you found your Jeevan Sathi. Yes, marriage is all about respect and be it arranged or love, guess, it is the couple who need to make it work. You are bang-on about the nurturing bit.

    Lovely read

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    Janaki February 24, 2024 at 10:30 pm - Reply

    I think at some stage we all go through this phase. I met a few prospective guys, but nothing clicked. My jeevansaathi ultimately turned out to be someone who had a loooong chat with my mom. My mom thought he was perfect for me; we met and the rest is history.

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    Priya Singh February 24, 2024 at 10:47 pm - Reply

    For some reason, my experience has been weird.
    I can’t and still can’t find a decent match to even talk.

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    Pamela Mukherjee February 24, 2024 at 11:20 pm - Reply

    Wow, Neha, I loved this story of yours. I mean, even though I am also sceptical about Jeevansathi, after reading your post, I guess I can give it a try. I am waiting for the next part.

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    Manali February 25, 2024 at 1:14 am - Reply

    Oh hello there, fellow arranged marriage blessed soul (or should I say victim :P)
    So happy to read this post full of positivity about finding love and the right partner through this process. Honestly, the flak that it gets on social media lately kind of annoys me because I’m in a blissful marriage through this process myself and these posts generalize it so much, it’s really irksome. So I’m happy to find someone talking nicely about it for a change and has had a good experience with it, similar to me.
    As for your story,oof and ooh, break-up in an arranged marriage dating phase sounds very intriguing. Looking forward to your next post to know what happened after your very cute first meeting and the dating period that followed.

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    Raghav February 25, 2024 at 8:30 am - Reply

    Oooh. A cliffhanger, I like it. This gave me memories of how I met my wife for the first time. Beautiful ppst, looking forward to the next one.

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    Anjali Tripathi February 25, 2024 at 11:08 am - Reply

    This hit where you said I understood that I could not skip marriage. I too have searched for my sister from the Jeevansathi site and they too are happily married now. Looking forward to the next one.
    Best wishes to both of you. 💝

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    ZenobiaMerchant February 25, 2024 at 12:36 pm - Reply

    Such a beautiful and heartfelt post. You are surely amongst the lucky few who found her perfect match and are living the happy story on jeevansaathi.com. I’ve had friends being stalked and have met good for noting men through the site.

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    Shifali February 25, 2024 at 2:05 pm - Reply

    Hi Neha
    I could relate to your story a lot. Even I found my jeevansathi from Jeevansathi.com in 2015. Mine was too arranged marriage so could easily understand your story with depth.

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    Samata February 25, 2024 at 3:30 pm - Reply

    Neha, It feels to see that people like you are also there in this world who cherish life even after getting into an arranged marraige. I must say jigs is a great guy and perhaps more romantic than you and still brings those lovely roses for you that surprises you. One thing you said here is that you son was next to him and was clueless what going on… I will say that he is observing the real meaning of love between two most beautiful person in this world, His mom and dad. Trust me, this will help him to respect and stay romantic to his partner when he will have one in his life. Earlier In one of your post I said that I am not an arranged marraige material and always preferred for a love marraige and had one and happy. I am glad matrimonial sites worked for you, but there is one lady in his late 30’s still looking for one and matrimonial sites are not giving the right match for her because she is having a dependent mother. I know another in early 40’s keen to get a life partner through matrimony sites but getting joked and harrased by those sites because of her age. All cannot find soulmate through affairs or via some known person and for them matrimony sites are the only solution. I wish these sites become more sensitive to all clients of them to help them find the right match. But Neha God blessed you dear as you got the best husband for you. Now I am waiting for Part 3.

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    Madhu Bindra February 25, 2024 at 4:17 pm - Reply

    It was lovely reading about your experience. God bless you both. I have seen marriages via matrimonial sites succeed and love marriages fail too. At the end of it, it is how compatible two people are, the way to find a partner varies.

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    Sivaranjini Anandan February 25, 2024 at 5:10 pm - Reply

    I dont no what to say but I could say you were 100 percent relatable. I too believe I would end up meeting someone who I call mine. 😍

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    Varsh February 25, 2024 at 5:33 pm - Reply

    Wah wah, I didn’t know you had such a filmy twist in your finding-the-right-partner stage! This sounds fun and I want to know more. Eagerly waiting.

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    Felicia Nazareth February 25, 2024 at 10:16 pm - Reply

    I can totally relate to your roller coaster of emotions. My cousin met his spouse through a marriage portal, and reading your experience reminded me of the stories he would share. As for me, I met my husband in high school, and we started dating in college. Yes, even though we have gone through break-up-like situations multiple times, we have somehow bounced back together. After all, what’s meant to be, is meant to be.

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    Neeta Kadam February 25, 2024 at 11:58 pm - Reply

    “Arranged Marriage ” The most difficult task. Thank you sharing your story. I remember how I am also going through these stages. Jobs, study and then registration at matrimonial site …. every thing was difficult for me. but I did it. I like your story. 👍

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    Sindhu Vinod Narayan February 26, 2024 at 1:12 am - Reply

    neha thanks for sharing your special moments.id really look forward to the next part to know what happened.

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    sonu chouhan February 26, 2024 at 6:45 am - Reply

    seriously I could relate to your story ..don’t let your mental health and physical health disturb yourself

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    SwatiMathur February 26, 2024 at 8:41 am - Reply

    I didn’t go through this but it is quite interesting to know your story. as you said there Is always a right time for right thing to happen and I am glad you found your soul mate but yhe last twist, OMG, want to know what happened next…

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    Harjeet Kaur February 26, 2024 at 9:55 am - Reply

    You hit the jackpot, Neha. You are very lucky. Right now, the matrimonial sites are a HUGE scam. Please watch Wedding.con and it will shock you. I am in a group called status Single on facebook and we have a Hyderabad chapter too and we meet. The girls have horrendous stories to share and they r so wary of men. They have become hardcore singles because of this. I am not single by choice and I am now 60 but I need company, so I join the girls when they meet.

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    Ishieta February 26, 2024 at 9:31 pm - Reply

    I follow your posts on Instagram, and I know your ‘saathi’ is just as much fun as you are 🙂
    You lucked out sweetheart and found a gem in the wastelands that is matrimony and dating sites and apps.
    I look forward to the next instalment in your story, I cannot believe you both ever broke up, and that either of your mom’s would let you guys do that 🙂

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    Kanchan Singh February 26, 2024 at 11:57 pm - Reply

    I can totally relate with your story, as I also met with my partner on Jeevansathi. It’s so lovely and felt good after reading tour journey. Thanks for sharing with us

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