There’s nothing like Perfect Parenting – The ‘Un’-common Tales’

There’s nothing like Perfect Parenting

Hello every one, here’s the fifth(5th) post of the blog series – The ‘Un’-common Tales of common people. This post is written by a strong mother of a fighter baby & I know her from the time our kids were little babies. Guys, meet Sonam Patel. She has shared her parenting journey which is not at all an easy one. Her son was born prematurely with a lot of complications & had to go through surgery at 3 months. Her story is heartbreaking, every time I read it, I get tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat.

But, this mom-son duo is a fighter and they can teach you how to live life with a smile on your face even when you are in deep pain.

Now, a little something about this blog series. I strongly believe that each one of us has a ‘voice that can make an impact, the ‘power to inspire others and the ‘experience that could help someone else. But not everyone has a platform to reach out to others and share their experiences with them. Hence, this series, where you will get to read the ‘Un’- common tales of common people who have the power to inspire and bring the change. This series is a small token of thanks to those people who have always supported me in my journey.

Read the first post of the series here – Take professional help!

Read the 2nd post of the series here – How to rediscover yourself after having a baby?!

And, read the 3rd post of the series here – Appreciation Matters!

You may read the 4th post here – A Mother’s fight to free her child from Autism!

If you, too, have been a part of our blog’s journey and wish to be a part of this series, you can reach out to me on Instagram. No bloggers, please!

Now, let’s read Sonam’s post.

There’s nothing like Perfect Parenting

Motherhood means discovering new possibilities and capabilities within oneself. It’s the most beautiful feeling but sometimes comes with lots of challenges. Hello everyone, I am Sonam Patel, mom to a three and half-year-old boy. Parenting proved to be a roller coaster ride yet the most incredible journey for us.

I delivered in 33 weeks because the growth of the baby stopped completely. It was an emergency c-section. The first three days went well, but after that, the health of the baby started deteriorating and he was shifted to the NICU. The sample was sent for the TORCH test and Rubella was found positive.

You may also read – Preterm Baby Care Tips for New Moms!

Sonam has shared her parenting journey. Her son was born prematurely with a lot of complications & had to go through surgery at 3 months.

Picture by Sonam Patel

Rubella affects the ear, eyes, brain, heart, and overall growth of the baby. So. it was complete damage for us. He had a hole in his heart, cataract in eyes and there was already a delay in his growth. Later, we discovered hearing loss in one ear too. Somehow brain seemed fine, but again the development was slow. This shook us totally. But, we didn’t have any option rather than fighting back.

Developmental delays & Surgery 

Nisham was just 3 months old when he went through his left eye surgery. This was the toughest phase as he was suffering a lot. In the fourth month, the right eye surgery was done. Both surgeries went fine. But he went through a lot of pain. He would cry the whole night and wouldn’t feed at all. He started wearing spectacles with power as high as +20 when he was just 6 months old. When he was 9 months old, he went through his heart surgery.

The Un common Tales of common people

Picture by Sonam Patel

The doctor had said that he will have developmental delays. So, we started with his physiotherapy when he was nearing his first birthday. He started holding neck around 10 months, he started sitting before his second birthday and started walking before his third birthday. He still can’t speak, although he is now able to express better. We have to start speech therapy now. But, due to the COVID-19 situation, the therapies are at bay.

For all the parents out there, there’s nothing like perfect parenting. People will judge you no matter what you do. It’s always better to listen to your own instincts and do whatever suits you. It’s your child and you will know what’s good for him/him. Never lose hope and you will rock it!

Sonam Patel

Sonam Patel

A proud stay at home mommy to a fighter baby, Nisham. I am basically from Bihar, residing in Kolkata. I am freelancing as an English- Hindi translator. My only motive is to create awareness and show a ray of hope to someone who is struggling with parenting. You can know more about our journey through my Instagram handle- @sonamm_patel. Do follow us and show some love.

Sonam, more power to you, dear. And blessings to little Nishu, I am very sure he will win this fight. He’s the strongest baby I know. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.

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    Ramya Ravindra Barithaya August 24, 2020 at 9:43 pm - Reply

    Nice share

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      Neha Sharma August 25, 2020 at 9:03 pm - Reply

      Thanks dear

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    Alpana Deo August 26, 2020 at 10:16 pm - Reply

    ‘listen to your own instincts and do whatever suits you.’ that should be the mantra for every parent. Her story is touchy but at the same time inspiring too. I can see a positive and strong side of a mother.

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    Mayuri Nidigallu August 27, 2020 at 8:33 am - Reply

    There is nothing perfect, leave alone Parenting. Adding that word puts a lot of pressure on the one role that everyone learns on the job and keep evolving with..

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    Shilpa Garg August 28, 2020 at 10:03 pm - Reply

    Without a doubt the hardest job on the planet is that of being a parent. And it is impossible to be a perfect parent. We have to simply do the best we can and be real. I must say that you and Nisham are fighters, your journey is awe-inspiring. More power to you! A big hug to you, Sonam and sending all positive vibes your way!

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    Ujjwal Mishra August 28, 2020 at 10:36 pm - Reply

    Mothers are brave. They gatber all the courage when the person is question is their child. Bravo Sonam.
    There is no thumb rule of parenting.

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    Deepika August 29, 2020 at 9:29 am - Reply

    Omg!! This is a very inspiring story. Salute to mother and baby for their courage and will power. Nishu is a fighter, he fought and won every odds with the mother’s support. God Bless them and give all the happiness in their life.

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    Varsh August 29, 2020 at 10:47 am - Reply

    Can’t imagine how difficult time Sonam’s parenting journey would be! Seeing our baby go through pain is the most heartbreaking thing for a parent. More strength to her and hope her boy is healthy soonest.

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    Cindy Dsilva August 29, 2020 at 12:39 pm - Reply

    Wow such an overwhelming post. Being a parent, you should never listen to people’s advice. I have always followed my heart from the beginning. I hope I can continue to do the same and take care of my kids.

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    Ruchi Verma August 29, 2020 at 3:47 pm - Reply

    These are some stories which you are sharing is really inspiring…. I can feel the tough time she must have gone as already witness someone very close

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    Surbhi Prapanna August 29, 2020 at 10:42 pm - Reply

    I had tear in my eyes while reading her story. I could imagine how she has faced all these. a big salute to this brave mother-son duo. I pray may he reach all his mile stone soon. thanks Neha for this amazing series, I am loving it totally.

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    Neha Jain August 29, 2020 at 10:50 pm - Reply

    The word parenting comes with its own challenges and responsibilities and comparing it with anyone else is is not possible so that is not perfect parenting it’s different for all

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    MeenalSonal August 29, 2020 at 11:12 pm - Reply

    Such an inspirational journey ! It’s very true that nothing is perfect in this world. God bless the little one.

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    Dr Bushra August 29, 2020 at 11:38 pm - Reply

    The story of sonam as the mother is heart touching. She’s so strong despite all odds and suffering she never loose hope and so positive. Indeed inspiring for all parents out there.

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    Debidutta Mohanty August 30, 2020 at 12:19 am - Reply

    I was in tears when I went through Sonam’s story. It takes lot of courage to see your child going through so much of pain. But I am sure mom and son both are fighter and soon will overcome all their hurdles of life.

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    Mayura Amarkant August 30, 2020 at 12:55 am - Reply

    My heart goes out Sonam and Nishu. She is surely a very brave mom….will pray for her and her family. Thank you for sharing this post, you are right, there is nothing perfect about parenting.

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    Charu August 30, 2020 at 1:30 am - Reply

    This is such a heartwarming post. Kudos to Sonam for staying strong and more power to her. Indeed there is nothing called as perfect parenting. But with brave moms like her, it is nothing short but perfect

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    Roma August 30, 2020 at 6:49 am - Reply

    Sonam you are such a sweetheart dear, an inspiration to everyone. I really admire your advice in the last paragraph. There is nothing like a mother’s instinct

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    Gunjan Upadhyay August 30, 2020 at 8:15 am - Reply

    This must be very tough on you Sonam, glad you fight it though like a warrior Mom, stay strong and much power to you facing so many challenges, Praying and hoping you come out of all these hurdles soon!

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    Judy Morris August 30, 2020 at 9:39 am - Reply

    Oh God having a premature baby and more so to see the little one undergo surgery must have been tremendous pain for Sonam. Thanks for sharing your story and it surely motivates us to go about parenting in the right way.

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    Swati Mathur August 30, 2020 at 10:15 am - Reply

    I agree Motherhood means discovering new possibilities and capabilities within oneself and when it comes with challenges it become more important for a mother to be more strong. It is easy to say than done. Sonam is an example of a strong mom, hats off to her.

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    Tina Basu August 30, 2020 at 10:57 am - Reply

    SHe is such a brave mom. Thank you for sharing this post and story. every parenting journey is different. It is so heart breaking to read this. My prayers for them hoping Nisham will start speaking soon.

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    Dipika Singh August 30, 2020 at 10:57 am - Reply

    We often say mothers are heroes but just not a metaphor but the reality of so many wonderful ladies out there it is easy for others to say everyone goes to the space but we have to remember every journey is distinctive and unique I love this series of unsung untold heroes and hats off to this mama for making is an amazing journey

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    Amrit kaur August 30, 2020 at 12:13 pm - Reply

    Yes society will judge every parent but it doesn’t mean that parents are not doing good for their kids. They are doing their best for their kids.

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    Ishieta August 30, 2020 at 9:50 pm - Reply

    Perfect parenting is a myth that every parent is always try to emulate.
    The story is touching and i wish them much strength.

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