Hello every one, here’s the second post of the blog series – The ‘Un’-common Tales of common people. This post is shared by a very good friend of mine, Megha Arora. I truly appreciate her for being real and talk about her struggles. She has shared her secret of being a happy mother. And I am sure her tips to ‘rediscover yourself after having a baby’ will help a lot of new mothers out there.
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Now, let’s read Megha’s post.
How to rediscover yourself after having a baby?
Having a baby through c-section was not easy for me. I was taking prenatal yoga sessions to prepare myself mentally and physically for the delivery. But I was shocked to know that it will be a cesarean delivery. I was 26 years old when I had my son. I was a happy, nervous, and physically weak mom. As I belong to a joint family, I had a lot of pressure as a daughter in law, wife, and most importantly, as a mother.
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Those 45 days were the toughest days of my life as I was going through a lot of physical changes. I was suffering from backache, acidity, anxiety, sleepless nights, and mood swings. And, I started missing my old carefree life. But these four things helped me to rediscover myself.
4 Ways to Rediscover Yourself after having a Baby
1 – Start giving time to yourself
Taking care of kids, 24/7 is not an easy job for any mother. There was that feeling of getting trapped inside a black hole; I was losing myself. But I had to do something for my well being. So, I started pampering myself with DIY masks, weekly massages, visiting the salon, cooking healthy meals to recover what was lost.
2 – Workout and Exercise to rediscover yourself
I started feeling conscious about my body, belly pouch, stretch marks, and sagging breasts. It seemed impossible to get back to my pre-pregnancy body. So, I decided to hit the gym, and I started with light workout and yoga sessions. I completely cut out the sugar from my diet and started eating more protein and Vitamin B complex. Soon my efforts started showing results that motivated me further to take care of myself.
3 – Spend time with your spouse
It was the time when the long talks at night with my husband would turn into arguments and fights. I don’t know the exact reason, but maybe it was the frustration due to change in routine or sleepless nights. And that’s when my husband and I decided to give quality time to each other and our baby. Also, giving dad-son exclusive time helped my husband to connect better with the baby.
4 – Plan a weekly outing with family and spend time with friends
We used to plan an outing every Wednesday either for a movie, picnic, or dinner. Getting dressed up and putting on makeup made me feel alive. We also organized monthly get together with friends, spending time with them was like insurance towards the best emotional and mental health.
There is something remarkable about each one of us. Seize the opportunity to look within and rediscover yourself. – Dr. Roopleen
Now, my son is 5 years old. I don’t know if I am a good mother or a good wife, but I always try my best to keep my family happy by giving them my time. But I also keep in mind that my life is equally important, and that’s how ‘me time’ keeps me happy.
Hi, I am Megha Arora, 31 years old (Delhi based). I am a fulltime homemaker, a wife, mother, and a daughter in law. Also, a fashion lover, shopaholic, makeup lover, and a big-time foodie. I love cooking for my family, and traveling is what excites me a lot.
Thank you, Megha, for sharing your experience of rediscovering the new ”you”. I could totally relate to your struggles; even I have been through the same emotional & mental state. And, I am sure the new mothers out there will find your ideas helpful.
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