Why to Introduce Sex Education?
Today’s topic is not an easy one to write about or even discuss openly; considering the taboo associated with sex and sex education in India. However, it’s high time we take this topic seriously and introduce sex education to our children, starting from home. When I was growing up, there were some topics that no one talked about openly—sex being one of the most taboo ones. If there was a kissing scene on television or even an ad about sanitary pads, my parents would quickly switch channels or awkwardly shift in their seats. They weren’t to blame, of course. It’s just how most families functioned back then. But now, as a parent myself, I see things a little differently.
Parents nowadays are more involved in their child’s upbringing, focusing on the overall development of their kids. We are ready to break the stereotypes and myths associated with parenting just to raise better human beings. So, why to shy away when it comes to talking about sexuality, gender identity, consent, safe sex, STIs, etc. with our kids?
I believe we can no longer afford to hide away from these conversations with our children, especially in today’s fast-paced, hyper-connected world.
Understanding the Indian Mindset
For many parents in India, the idea of sex education feels unnecessary, inappropriate, or even dangerous. “Bachche abhi chhote hain” (The children are still young) is a phrase we often hear, or perhaps we’ve said ourselves. After all, what can kids possibly need to know about such a “grown-up” topic?
But here’s the thing: curiosity has no age limit. Our kids are already encountering ideas and images related to sex through their friends, television, social media, and even advertisements. The internet, especially, is an unfiltered source of information, and without proper guidance, children can easily get confused or, worse, misinformed. This is why it’s so important to introduce sex education at home early on.
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Early Curiosity: Are We Ready?
My son was around 4 or 5 when he first asked us, “Where do babies come from?” I’m sure many of you parents must have heard this question from their child at some point. This is how curious kids are, they will always have such questions as they grow up. But are we ready to answer their questions sincerely? Most Indian parents would avoid such conversations with their child.
Because we aren’t prepared to answer their genuine queries when they’re young, chances are high we won’t be able to guide them when they reach adolescence. That’s when they are most curious about their bodies and are ready to explore more. But at the same time, they are often confused, and in the hope of finding answers, they may end up looking in the wrong places.
By talking about sex and related topics openly in an age-appropriate manner from an early age; we teach our kids that sex and sexuality are normal and healthy parts of life. They should feel comfortable coming to their parents for information and doubts, and we should be able to guide them with honest answers. We can teach our adolescent kids the importance of consent and safe sex to avoid unwanted pregnancies, rapes, and abortions. Most importantly, we can educate them about sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Why Start Early?
It’s essential to remember that sex education isn’t only about teaching children the mechanics of sex. It encompasses teaching about the human body, respect for boundaries, understanding emotions, and the importance of consent.
Coming back to the question my son asked when he was just 4-5 years old. “Mumma, where do babies come from?” At first, I froze. The instinct was to divert his attention, tell him something funny, and change the topic. But I knew if I did that, his curiosity wouldn’t die; it would just find another outlet. Instead, I decided to keep it simple and honest, explaining things in a way that matched his understanding.
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We often think kids can’t handle such information, but that’s because we often confuse sex education with talking about intercourse. That’s not what they need at a young age. What they do need is a foundation of trust and knowledge about their bodies, the concept of good touch and bad touch, and understanding that they have the right to say “no” to uncomfortable situations. When we introduce sex education early, it helps normalize these conversations.
Breaking the Silence
In many Indian households, sex education has long been seen as something that “the school will teach.” However, the reality is that most schools either skip it entirely or approach it in a way that feels more awkward than informative. I remember attending one of those classes in my school. A teacher walked in, gave a quick, embarrassed explanation about the reproductive system, and walked out, leaving us all more confused than before.
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This approach creates a cycle, students don’t understand what they’ve been told, feel too awkward to ask their parents or teachers, and end up seeking answers in unsafe places.
As parents, it’s important to break this cycle. And it doesn’t have to be awkward. In fact, if we introduce sex education as naturally as we would any other topic, our kids will learn to treat it with the same level of normalcy.
The Role of Trust and Open Communication
One of the main reasons to introduce sex education early is to build trust. When children know that they can come to you with questions about their bodies or things they’ve heard; you become their primary source of information. This reduces the chances of them relying on their peers or the internet for answers, both of which may provide misleading or harmful information.
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When Nemit asked about babies, I didn’t launch into a full-fledged biology lesson. I just told him that babies grow inside a special part of the mother’s body, called ‘uterus’. And as he grows, we’ll talk more about how that happens. He was satisfied with that answer, and I knew I had laid the groundwork for future conversations.
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The key here is to offer information that’s age-appropriate and leave room for more detailed discussions as they grow older. It’s not about dumping everything on them at once but about keeping an open channel of communication so they feel comfortable coming to you.
Protecting Them in the Long Run
Let’s address the elephant in the room: sexual abuse. In India, the statistics are alarming, with a significant percentage of abuse cases involving children. One of the strongest ways to protect our children is to equip them with the knowledge of good touch and bad touch.
A friend once shared how her daughter came home from a playdate and asked, ‘Mumma, is it okay if someone hugs me when I don’t like it?’ She had felt uncomfortable when another child insisted on hugging her. My friend used that moment to explain personal boundaries and consent in a simple, relatable way. She was glad her daughter felt safe enough to ask her. As parents, it’s our job to help our kids understand and set these boundaries early. Introducing sex education helps ensure they’re prepared for these conversations.
Introduce Sex Education: Bust the Myths
Many Indian parents worry that discussing sex will encourage kids to engage in sexual activity. But research shows the opposite. When children are well-informed, they tend to make safer and more informed choices as they grow older. Ignorance, on the other hand, leaves them vulnerable to risky behaviors.
There’s another fear that discussing such topics will “take away their innocence.” In reality. it prepares them for life. If approached the right way, it doesn’t rob children of their innocence, it empowers them. It helps them understand themselves and the world around them.
Conclusion: Building a Healthier Society
At the end of the day, when we introduce sex education, it isn’t about encouraging children to grow up faster. It’s about ensuring they grow up safer, more informed, and confident in their understanding of their bodies and emotions.
In a country like India, where talking about sex remains taboo in many homes, it’s time to challenge that silence. By starting these conversations with our kids in a simple, age-appropriate way; we can prepare them for a healthier, more responsible future. After all, it’s not just about the “where do babies come from” question. It’s about teaching our children to respect themselves, their bodies, and others.
And if we want our kids to feel comfortable talking to us about these topics as they grow, the conversations need to start now.
What are your thoughts on introducing sex education to kids starting from home? Do share them in the comments below.
This blog post is part of ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’
hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla
in collaboration with Dr. Preeti Chauhan.
graet insights ,sex education is essetial for enpowerment & healtghy reletionship thaks for raising awerness
This is such an important topic, and I really like how you talked about it. I had a similar experience growing up, where no one talked these things. Now as a parent, I agree that its time to change that. kids are already learning about these topics anyway, so its better they get the right information from us. Thanos for sharing this must read post with us.
Introducing sex education is so important! It equips young people with the right knowledge to make informed and responsible decisions about their health and relationships. Open conversations about these topics help break down misconceptions, promote safety, and foster respect. Thanks for highlighting this crucial subject!
Sex education is an integral part of growing up. In India, however, the topic is taboo in most homes. It is ironical that this is he state of affairs in a country which is the home of the Kamasutra. I think the key here is, “age appropriate,” as you have mentioned. Rather than weaving ridiculous stories, it is better to give factual information based on the age of the child.
a very important topic. but coming to sez education, our older generation doesn’t even want to acknowledge that their adult children have sex ! I had a mother of a thirty something man say , ” my son is fresh! “
kids are curious and we really need to help them make it understand depending on their age and not curbing their curiosity.
sec education is important and an open communication between parents and the kids makes it much easier to handle the topic. I love how your post offers insights on this topic
I agree with you on this, Neha. I believe starting sex education at home builds trust and ensures kids get accurate information. It is very important for overall safety and understanding too. Let’s break this taboo together.
I agree with you, totally. Sex education is imperative. I had no clue about it when I got married and became a mom. But I did talk about it openly with my kids. My son asked how he was born and I told him through a C- section. After a couple of years he asked me how were they worn when there was no surgery! Then I explained it to him. My daughter was told about good touch bad touch before she started school and that’s how my kids had open communication with me.
Changing eras means changing mindsets. This is so important. I wish someone had educated me about sex early in life, I would have made fewer mistakes and not taken on bigoted patterns. Also, like you have mentioned, the internet does have a lot of exposure, so it’s best to know about things from a mature and sensible adult.
It’s truly important to educate children early. They make fewer mistakes and grow up as better adults. The internet can really change perspectives, therefore safe and better information is needed through trusted adults.
it is important to teach children about sex. If family and school don’t teach, then children will run about it from friends and from net. I think most in India don’t understand female reproductive biology and don’t understand birth control process. Proper sex education will prevent sexually transmitted diseases and associated social stigma and fatality. it is a good idea to teach sex education in school.
Sex education is a must for each and every kid of this generation…. it will not only make them aware about their own protection and safety but will also educate themselves to be responsive, alert and sensitive towords protecting and offering support to opposite genders when they are in need of. it also educates about being respectful towords self and others surrounding them. you picked a very serious and important topic to discuss. proud 👏 of you.
Very well articulated blog on a topic that is, as you rightly said, wrongly brushed under the carpet. Each one of your pertinent points hits the nail on the head, especially that part of abuse. With the right knowledge from the right source can help our children deal with uncomfortable and awkward situations maturely and openly instead of being scared and insecure.
Sex education is a necessity, even for small kids. At least the concepts of bad touch and good touch should be communicated clearly to them. I am glad that nowadays, NGOs like Arpan and Disha are conducting such sessions, both offline and online.
I have started doing this recently. My son is entering his teens with a thousand questions. And I feel it is no more necessary to avoid these topics but to explain to him so that he understands better when he becomes a man in afew years–the meaning of ‘no’, the boundaries to be respected, the human body and how far is too far etc. You’ve touched upon a very relevant subject.
Curbing the curiousity from a young age from the right source would not only help them with a better understanding but also help create a sense of respect towards the other gender I feel
So addressing such questions helps build a feeling of trust between parents and children which really helps them to talk without the fear of being judged.
I also feel it’s important to introduce sex education to kids. It will help them to understand their bodies and make safe choices.
It was interesting how even when I was a medical undergraduate , I did not see anything about the process of consummation or actual sex mentioned anywhere in out textbooks , how was I supposed to talk to my patients about it?
Sex education is a must because children will end up learning about things from all sorts of unreliable sources and also feel ashamed to talk about their problems if sex education is not encouraged.
Great post , I appreciate it.
Oh my! As much as I want to skip this portion of parenting, sadly, it happens so quickly and I must say, in a blink of an eye! My daughters is about to reach this stage which I think is proper to talk about sex education. They’ve been studying about reproduction already, so what better time is it than now. It is a bit awkward though as talking about sex is still such a taboo, especially here in the Philippines.
Most common misconception/fear in minds of parents about being introduced to sex education is that if children will start being sexually active right after they are introduced to it!!! it’s such wrongly placed fear.
You have addressed the need of inclusion very well! hope it will reduce this fear and in turn the resistance to the introduction of sex education.
I am glad parents are becoming more open about this topic and removing the taboo around it. I feel informed children are safer children. It is so important for them to understand so they can make better choices.
your post offers much needed insights. open communication and sez education to kids is much necessary these days
I completely agree with you that sex education should begin at home itself. mostly parents ignore their kids questions as they feel uncomfortable in answering them and divert the topic. but in reality they miss the chance of building trust and equipping their kids with the right knowledge.