Role of Parents in the Cognitive Development of a child

New Age Parenting

It is said that ‘It takes a village to raise a child’, how true is this in today’s world? Let’s talk about new age parenting and the role of parents in the cognitive development of their child. We are in an era where more and more families are turning nuclear and both parents have specific career goals. Due to multiple responsibilities, parents are always running short of time, still, they want to practice the best parenting method for their kids. However, I have seen parents struggling through this phase with little or absolutely no help around. Also, it’s commonly believed that the responsibility of a child is tilted more towards the mother. But times are changing and we can see many fathers proudly sharing parenting responsibilities and taking the load off the mothers’ shoulders.

Role of Parents in Cognitive development of their child

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So, if you come under this category of nuclear family setup or joint family with zero support, this post is for you.

We are a nuclear family with no help around. Initially, after the birth of our son, I thought of dedicating my full attention and giving all my time to raising our kid. However, motherhood is not that easy, it comes with its own pros and cons. Postpartum depression hit me quite early and too hard that it took a toll on my mental as well as physical health. This, in turn, put a bad impact on bonding with my newborn. Luckily, my husband observed the mood changes and took the step to talk it out. That was the time when I poured my heart out and explained how difficult it was for me to manage a newborn all alone. Then onwards, we decided to follow a shared parenting approach.

Role of parents in the child's cognitive development

Nemit and Papa shares a strong bond

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I have already talked about how an impressive amount of a baby’s brain development occurs during pregnancy in my previous posts. And also how choosing the right nutrition plays an important role in boosting a child’s growth and development. We very well know how understanding the benefits of breastfeeding, choosing the right environment, and offering the age-specific stimulation exercises can all assist in the cognitive development of a child. These are some of the ways in which a mother can FeedIQ to her child.

Role of parents in the child's cognitive development

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It is the responsibility of both parents to ensure that the child gets the right stimulatory environment by being mindful of their parenting approach. We make sure we are available for each other and for our son as and when required. This way we also try to inculcate the important values of equality in our son.

How do we ensure our child’s proper physical, social as well as cognitive development?

Let’s be true to ourselves, a mother can’t do it all by herself. She can fit well in all the roles but the fact can’t be ignored that she too needs rest and care. Here are some of the things we do in laying a great development foundation for our child.

An equally shared parenting truly is half the work and all the fun.

=> Outdoor Play – To ensure Nemit gets ample time outside, Sumit takes him to the nearby park twice a day. It’s an advantage to us since Nemit wakes up early, he gets his first dose of physical activity in the early morning hours, which in turn, helps in keeping his energy levels in check. Now, here it is important for parents to be a part of their child’s outdoor activity. Outdoor play or play dates also help in improving the child’s social development.


Role of parents in the child's cognitive development

Toddlers still need their parents around; they feel secure and loved when parents show interest in what their kids are doing. This can also be the best bonding time for a father with his child. Just by playing with your child, you can help in reducing their feelings of anxiety and stress.

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=> Interaction – Talking to the child and making conversation is very important starting from an early age to develop their communication skills. And here I am not just speaking about making general talks, positive interactions with your child are helpful in a child’s social development too. Yes, your child’s social development starts with you. We do this by encouraging Nemit to share his day and activities with us, we help him in building a two-way communication. Listening to your toddler is as important as talking which also helps in their cognitive development.

Role of parents in the child's cognitive development

When you speak with your child look into their eyes, respond with a smile and stay focused. Never shy away from hugging and kissing your child, always make them feel loved. All this helps in teaching a child to be affectionate and compassionate to others.  These positive interactions also help in maintaining a good parent-child relationship.

Role of parents in the child's cognitive development

Cuddles are Fun

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=> Structured Play – I have always encouraged play-based learning for Nemit. In simple terms, structured play means ‘play with a purpose‘, and this may include pre-planned skill-based activities. These activities provide the right stimulation which in turn boosts the child’s cognitive development.

When you speak with your child look into their eyes, respond with a smile and stay focused. Never shy away from hugging and kissing your child, always make them feel loved. All this helps in teaching a child to be affectionate and compassionate to others.  These positive interactions also help in maintaining a good parent-child relationship.

Play-based learning

The power of play should never be underestimated when it comes to a child’s cognition. In fact, these stimulation activities play the most fundamental role in their physical as well as intellectual development.

Role of parents in the child's cognitive development

Finger Painting

I resort to these pre-planned activities mostly during the daytime when I am alone with Nemit. During Nemit’s summer break, this structured play helped in keeping me sane through the long summer days.

Role of parents in the child's cognitive development

Pre-planned activities

I usually plan 3-4 activities which help in keeping him busy for good 2-3 hours. These are not just fun but helps in strengthening our bond too. Also, following the Montessori approach has helped in planning activities based on day to day life skills. I will be sharing more about these toddler activities in my next post.

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When the parents provide attention and the right environment, it helps in shaping their child’s physical, social as well as cognitive development. This is how I manage being a work at home mom without feeling the undue pressure even in our nuclear setup. I understand this approach is not applicable for everyone, and I have no intention to portray that only equal parenting is better for every family than another parenting model. But this has surely helped us in many ways.

How do you moms manage your work-life balance? Does your family also follow the equal parenting approach? Share with me in the comments below. And if you liked this post, please do share it with your friends and family.




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    Sabeeka Lambe July 5, 2018 at 3:33 pm - Reply

    The activities you planned for the summer break look interesting… And I so agree with your views on equal parenting and how it is beneficial to the baby’s development

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    Punitha July 5, 2018 at 4:34 pm - Reply

    Loved to read this awesome article regarding cognitive development, very interesting each and every words. Some families they are following equal parenting, some they won’t… For those it really nightmare to those moms. They have to manage everything alone is big difficult

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    Dipika Singh July 5, 2018 at 4:42 pm - Reply

    This is such an informative post and vibrant with all the images of little one. Role of parents plays a major role in molding child’s development and future. I am glad fathers these days are taking a step forward and participating in parenting roles start from the beginning.

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    Tina July 5, 2018 at 7:41 pm - Reply

    shared parenting is a great practise. We try to do the same at my home since we are a nuclear setup with no relative in the city. Though I spend a larger chunk of the time with him, his dad takes over all charge – from bathing to feeding to play time whenever he gets time. ROle of both parents, in fact shape up a child and his developments.

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    Deepa July 5, 2018 at 9:58 pm - Reply

    Parents and their role and involvement makes a big difference. Loved the activities you shared especially the structured play. It us good for their cognitive development.

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    Anshika July 5, 2018 at 11:56 pm - Reply

    It’s well said happy parents can only raise happy children. Totally agree with u, equal parenting is beneficial for child’s proper development..M gonna use all these splendid activities fr my bub

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    Humaira July 7, 2018 at 7:54 am - Reply

    Amazing and informative post. Parents role is vital for the development and growth of the kids. Great thoughts.

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    Gurjeet Chhabra July 7, 2018 at 2:24 pm - Reply

    Mine is also nuclear family. I always ask my hubby to take part in our babies activities.its not easy for a single parent to take care of both kids. I too take them to party , play with them and make them learn things through play

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    Siddhi Palande July 7, 2018 at 3:21 pm - Reply

    I give up my career to start a family and I am very happy with my child I dedicate all my time to my baby at times it gets stressful but allowing my child to grow on her own, to learn and develop cognitive thinking is the most important to me and so this blog post is very helpful

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    Mrinal July 7, 2018 at 4:24 pm - Reply

    Shared parenting is what i totally believe in! Loved your post! Your tips for congnitive development are truly amazing!

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    Judy July 7, 2018 at 4:31 pm - Reply

    Actually, this post had some learning for me today thanks for sharing this detailed article about the cognitive development of the child.

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    Akanksha July 7, 2018 at 5:00 pm - Reply

    This is such a lovely post. We live abroad with no help for household work. I have part-time IT job and a full time blog plus my husband has a full time IT job. My son was born here in England and we have been managing everything alone. Even when my relatives come to our home, they come for holiday and it’s always extra load of work. Gladly my husband is very supportive and shares responsibilities. It helps so much when you have supportive partner.

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    Jhilmil D Saha July 7, 2018 at 5:17 pm - Reply

    This is a very nice article. Its very important for both the parents to be equally responsible in taking care of kid’s overall development.

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    Rohini James July 7, 2018 at 5:34 pm - Reply

    There is no doubt in my mind that equal parenting is the best for the kid as well as us parents. We’ll written article.

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    Jhilmil July 7, 2018 at 5:47 pm - Reply

    Such a lovely post, I could recall the same way I have practised cognitive development of my kid with role plays, moulds, structured and unstructured play.

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    Sharvari Paivaidya Mehan July 7, 2018 at 8:08 pm - Reply

    I totally resonate with you. Shared roles in parenting should be the norm especially so in nuclear families. Living away from.India I have to manage home household chores my son and work. My husband supports and helps out with chores…. That is also leading by example

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    Princy Khurana July 7, 2018 at 9:49 pm - Reply

    well compiled. it is important that both parents play a parent in their child’s upbringing. just the mom is not responsible.

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    Sinduja July 8, 2018 at 1:54 pm - Reply

    Have been following all your lovely and easy to follow play and learn tips on Insta and this blog is yet another treasure Neha. Thanks for this

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    Priyanka Patwari July 9, 2018 at 6:09 am - Reply

    Mine also nuclear family and as types of activities helps me a lot for engaging her in good way. Love your post

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    Gunjan July 11, 2018 at 12:57 pm - Reply

    Amazing post Neha…. We also follow shared parenting, but my hubby’s job allows him less time to be with our boy. But whenever he gets time, he loves to play, give him bath, take him to ride by car n bicycle. I also plan activities for him, but my boy is always on wheels. He is a hyperactive baby… So mostly my efforts goes useless. 😖

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    Avantika September 2, 2018 at 9:10 pm - Reply

    That’s a good one! I don’t take my kid out as much, thanks to limitations in the city but weekends we make sure there is ample of outdoors time!

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    Varad September 2, 2018 at 9:34 pm - Reply

    Good points, concise and clear. Well written. I’d like to share something we did when our first one was two years old. Every night, post dinner I took my son down to the parking lot of our apartment for a walk. While walking, I pointed out different makes and models of cars. Within no time, he started identifying cars and was very excited to step out post dinner instead of wanting to watch baby tv or something. My wife taught him names of flowers and vegetables by taking him to the shop downstairs. Practical and fun way of keeping kids occupied.

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    Srishti Rajeev Menda September 9, 2018 at 7:29 pm - Reply

    Practical and real things that one can implement. And the father has an important part, totally agree with the insta post.

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