6 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot After Baby

How to keep your relationship hot after baby?

Becoming a new parent can produce a host of challenges, in your relationship and in your sex life. On top of this, many women struggle to feel sexual after pregnancy because of the physical toll that it takes on your body. Luckily, there are some ways to boost your sex life. Follow these 6 tips to keep your relationship hot after baby!

6 Sexy Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot After Baby

Post-partum life is a time of drastic upheaval for new parents. You have a new baby to care for, a new sleepless schedule to adapt to, all while your body is recovering from the physical ordeal of giving birth. Hormone fluctuations, such as a rapid decline in estrogen, may cause women to feel a temporary loss of sexual desire after pregnancy.

On top of this, it’s common for women to experience vaginal swelling and soreness for several weeks, and even months, post-partum. With many women reluctant when it comes to post-pregnancy sex, it’s not surprising that this phase can take its toll on relationships. If you’re struggling to reignite the spark in your relationship post-partum, try these 6 romantic tips to help you feel sexual after pregnancy.

1 – Aim for Intimacy Rather Than Intercourse

Having sexual intercourse after pregnancy can feel daunting for many women. Pregnancy and birth put the body through a lot, and it’s natural to feel worried about restarting your sex life while you’re still healing. If the thought of sexual intercourse after pregnancy turns you off, remember that there are other ways for you and your partner to give each other sexual pleasure.

Maintaining intimacy with your partner during this phase can strengthen your relationship and can make things easier when it’s time to resume sexual activity after pregnancy. Don’t be afraid to turn each other on without the pressure to commit to full penetration. These sexual stimulation methods can also be less physically demanding – perfect for those first few, exhausting months of parenthood.

2 – Use Sensual Touch

Caring for a new baby can be physically draining. It’s not just about lack of sleep, some women also feel exhausted by the amount of time they spend holding and nursing their babies. While new motherhood is a wonderful experience, once the baby is in bed, many women just want to spend time by themselves without being touched.

Becoming a new parent can produce a host of challenges, in your relationship and in your sex life. Here are 6 tips to keep your relationship hot after baby!

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If the pressure of being sexual after pregnancy is too much, ask your partner to give you a back rub sensual massage and then return the favor. Sensual contact is a great way to keep the connection alive between you and your partner. And, can help reawaken sexual pleasure after pregnancy. 

3 – Forget Shame and ‘Should’

Many women put pressure on themselves to quickly become sexual after pregnancy. On top of this, you may be worried about what kind of sexual activity is safe after pregnancy. If this sounds like you, remember there is no set time to resume sexual activity after pregnancy. While doctors recommend that you wait at least 4 weeks after giving birth, women may want to wait much longer than this.

Contrary to what many people believe, the absence of sexual desire post-partum is not a sign of sexual dysfunction after pregnancy. In fact, stressing about the loss of sexual desire after pregnancy can decrease your sex drive. Remember, side-effects of giving birth, like post-partum bleeding may last for several months and cause discomfort or embarrassment.

Problems like continual or sporadic bleeding can be alleviated by choosing the best tampons or pads for your needs. If you are worried about your sexual health after pregnancy. Or, feel that you have no sexual sensation after pregnancy, speak to your midwife or gynecologist.

4 – Communicate with Your Partner 

During early parenthood, it’s easy to lose touch with your partner. And fall into patterns where you snap at or bicker. This is nothing to be concerned about. You’re both tired, you’re both stressed, and you’re both super protective over your new baby. If tensions are running high, one way to recapture your spark is to learn how to communicate verbally.

This goes for calmly discussing that fight you had about bedtime feeds and for your sex life. If you’re feeling physically burnt out, why not rekindle passion by sending flirty texts to each other? This allows you to explore your fantasies without getting physical. And, also will remind you of a time when you couldn’t stop thinking about each other.

5 – Recreate Your Pre-Baby Fun

Remember, you’re still you after you’ve had a baby. And the fun, sexy times you have with your partner have not come to an end. You just might need to get a bit more creative when it comes to being sexual after pregnancy. Scheduling a date night may feel like an effort, but there’s no better way to reconnect with your partner.

Tips to keep your relationship alive after pregnancy

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Meanwhile, a steamy session in your car is bound to help you feel sexual after pregnancy. You could even have a date night in a different part of the house. Throwing some rose petals on your bed or running yourself a bubble bath are sure-fire ways to help you feel like you’re in the honeymoon suite.

6 – Make the Most of Nap Time 

Ask any new parents and they will likely tell you that the quickie is key to reawakening sexual desire after pregnancy. Babies sleep erratic hours and it may be tempting to pass out. Or, to catch up on chores as soon as they go down. If you have any energy left by nap time though, this might be a good time for a sexy session with your partner. Having sex in different parts of your house can also work wonders for your libido. And give your relationship a new lease of life. 

I hope you find these tips in helping to keep your relationship hot after having a baby

Final Call

Are you a new mum struggling with sex post-pregnancy? Or perhaps you’ve done it all before. And have many tried and tested methods to keep the spark in your relationship? Share your concerns and questions with our readers in the comments! 

Author’s BIO:

Rachel Burns is an experienced copywriter and photographer with a design diploma. She works with startups, entrepreneurs, bloggers, and companies from around the world. In addition to writing articles and promotional materials, she enjoys hiking, reading, cooking, and spending time with her family. You can learn more about Rachel by visiting top-mom.com.

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    Alpana September 15, 2020 at 9:59 pm - Reply

    This is much needed topic but often goes unattended. Having a baby is a big change in our lives but that doesn’t mean that we should give up on our intimacy with our partner. I really liked the point Intimacy rather than intercourse.I feel men and women’s brains are wired different, so communicating our desires is very important.

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    Ruchi Verma September 17, 2020 at 11:43 pm - Reply

    I like the pointers you shared …We feel having good conversation while kids are having nap is the best way to keep relationship alive

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    MeenalSonal Mathur September 18, 2020 at 6:07 pm - Reply

    Things do get little difficult after the baby. And with excess work and out of shape body many females do tend to look down upon themselves. It’s the partner role that plays plus over here.

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    Cindy Dsilva September 18, 2020 at 7:30 pm - Reply

    Oh this is really important to know before the men get tired and go astray. We all need intimate days and making an effort to keep things alive is the only way it works.

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    Surbhi prapanna September 19, 2020 at 8:30 am - Reply

    I think women should keep a relaxed attitude after pregnancy and try to get adjust with new routine and responsibilities. I agree that conversation with your partner is very important and this will help in keeping spark alive.

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    Deepika September 19, 2020 at 2:52 pm - Reply

    Very well narrated post and pointed out the most important questions related to post-pregnancy relationship and tried to solve with various examples. I agree, A couple should need to sit together and talk about that.

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    Roma September 19, 2020 at 3:59 pm - Reply

    You know Neha, this is truly a great reminder post. Many a times even if we know these points, we fail to take notice of our needs as we get so busy rearing our little ones.

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    Hansa Kajaria September 19, 2020 at 4:39 pm - Reply

    I think the best thing that has worked for me is giving time no matter how late it may get after kids but stay up and talk a little have fun watch movies and also regular calls between chores and office…

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    Preetjyot Kaur September 19, 2020 at 7:26 pm - Reply

    This was an interesting Read. I know someone who is facing issues with this. I will definitely forward this blog link to my friend. This was quite an insightful post.

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    Snigdha September 20, 2020 at 12:44 am - Reply

    The pointers are so helpful . After pregnancy it is so tough to get quality time with patner and your points are giving hope for doing best 😂 .. awesome write-up.

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    Varsh September 20, 2020 at 8:03 am - Reply

    Loss of interest in sex is common in new moms but one mustn’t forget that they need intimacy and comfort even more. Some good tips here. One must go with the flow.

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    Sayeri September 20, 2020 at 10:45 am - Reply

    Its really an important issue in a relationship because after having a baby life takes a 360 degree turns so its quite difficult to keep things same. But these are some useful tips.

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    Mandavi Jaiswal September 20, 2020 at 11:28 am - Reply

    What fun post to read 🙂 Make the most of it while the baby sleeps 🙂 Keeping the communication on is so very important once the bundle of joy arrives and its important to make time for non-baby talks too

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