How to deal with Toddler Tantrums? Everyone wants to know the answer to this question. Well, in my last 3 years of parenting journey, I have learned that instead of reacting to difficult situations, responding calmly helps the best. I am telling you this because I’m experienced now. But if I tell you to follow this, most probably, you will fail.

Confused?

Don’t be…! I will explain.

All the parents reading this post must very well know that it’s not at all easy to be a mommy or a daddy. It takes a lot of effort, patience, learning & failings to actually feel proud of being a parent. When I was a new mom, I would often fight with myself. Because I used to think I was a very bad mother. And that I was doing everything wrong. Even the new father (my husband) would feel confused about not understanding a crying baby. It was big CHAOS!

But then with time, we learned the tricks. Tricks to handle a baby! It all seemed easy breezy. Life became Happy.

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But, wait!!!

This happiness started fading away soon when we realized the baby is no more a baby, he’s a toddler now. Oh my God & all our tricks became trash in no time. The once proud self-boasting parents fell into a deep dark pit, an unknown unexplored territory of parenting. A place where tantrums ruled, yes, the toddler tantrums!

Toddlers may look charming and entertaining but don’t get fooled by their antics.

One minute they will look so happy & even share their fav meal with you. And the very next moment you’ll find them screaming & rolling on the floor demanding to give back that bite you just finished.

PARENTING is CHALLENGING as well as CONFUSING!

PIN IT!

But hey, with time comes experience. We start understanding our own GENES!!!

Just a month ago, our son turned 3 years old. And we are literally juggling between a toddler and a preschooler stage now.  Preschooler stage is even more confusing and ever difficult than dealing with toddler tantrums. These kids think that they know everything & they keep asking you questions all the time. Not only this, they demand an answer on the spot otherwise a tantrum may follow.

Anyways, am not going to dive into this topic. I will now share how we survived the toddler stage. Please note, our mantra may or may not work for you. So, use them at your own discretion.

You may read my posts for Super Blogger Challenge, here and here!

We have a 5-step Parenting Mantra for dealing with toddler tantrums

Step 1- Breathe and take it easy

Simplest of all, whenever you sense a tantrum, and there’s nothing, literally nothing you can do about it. Just close your eyes! And, Take a Deep Breath!

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If it doesn’t calm your senses, move on to the next step.

Step 2- Remind yourself this too shall pass

With eyes still closed & breaths getting deeper, just go back in time when your baby was little. Keep going and stop when you see a cute face with the prettiest smile. Remind yourself, this is your baby & he is still cute. And this time too shall pass!

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Suddenly, you break away from your deep meditation & hear loud screaming & thumping sounds.

Step 3- Just go away from the scene

The toddler is now looking at you from the corner of his eye & probably he’s thinking why you’re not responding. That’s the point when they want to try their best skills to annoy you further. Don’t get fooled here! Just go away from the scene.

Oh no, you lost your cool with slightest provoking. The next step is the favorite of every mother. Yelling. But, it seldom works on toddlers. So, AVOID!

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What now? The toddler is looking directly into your eyes & giving you a wicked smile. You are about to have a breakdown. Just hang in there and call for help!

Step 4- Ask for help. Call your partner!

This is your time to save yourself. If your partner is around, it’s their turn to take control of the situation. You need to have some kind of emergency call out code. So that your partner or if not a partner then someone else from the family should reach out to you immediately.

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What if? What if you are all alone!

Step 5- Just say ‘I Love You’ and give a ‘Big Bear Hug’ to your toddler

This works, trust me! But it will work once you are drained out of energy and on the brink of passing out. Also, by this time, your toddler is almost bored with this tantrum game. They forget you forgive (or vice versa) and everything’s back to normal.

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So, that’s it, guys. This is our #momology or parenting mantra when it comes to dealing with toddler tantrums or some tricky situations. A hug and a kiss can never go wrong!

This month I am participating in the #Momology Blog Train. And, this is my 1st post of the blog train on Prompt 1.

Prompt 1 – What is your secret and most effective #Momology or Parenting Mantra that comes handy in most tricky situations

This blog train hosted by Thoughts byGeethica, Slimexpectations, Mummasaurus, and Truly Yours Roma sponsored by FirstCry Intellikit, Instacuppa, Diet Funda, Hugs n tugs, Tina Basu, Unorthodoxpeeps, Lotus Herbals baby and Shumee toys.

“I would like to thank Anupriya for introducing me in the Momology Blog Train. You can read more about her work at Mommytincture. I would now like to introduce Disha who blogs at Lifemyway”

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Hi friends, first of all, thanks a lot for liking my last travel post. It is now the second most visited post on my blog with more than 10,000 visits in just a month. Thanks for all the love. Today I am here with yet another travel related post. And I am dedicating this post to the bond grandchildren shares with their grandparents all over the world.

We love to travel whenever we could, usually, we don’t plan much. We are in fact the last minute planners and finalize most of our vacations in less than a month’s time. Such unexpected travel plans are so much fun and thrilling. We just check out the lowest priced flights, book a decent hotel/resort, pack our bags and zoom we go. Thanks to various online travel companies like MakeMy Trip, GoIbibo, TripAdvisor, Trivago to name a few to do our last minute research, compare prices and steal some awesome deals. However, the last couple of trips were quite different. These were special as Nemit’s Nani & Dadi (grandmothers) were there with us on the vacation. We planned these vacations keeping in mind the comfort of our kid and his grandparents. I believe if there is anything you can gift to your kids and their grandparents, plan a trip together.

So, today I am going to share our best travel tips while traveling with kids and elderly to make the vacation comfortable and memorable for both.

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5 Best Tips when Traveling with Kids and their Grandparents

The definition of travel holds a completely different meaning when your travel partners are children and the big children (yes the elderly). You can’t just pick a destination and make last minute plans. So, last year we visited Kerela and this year January we traveled to the Andaman Islands with Nemit and his grandparents. And these 2 trips have taught us a lot more about how to make the vacation more fun and comfortable for both kid and his grandparents. Let’s look at some tips-

1. Start planning your trip at least 2-3 months prior to the actual date of travel.

Planning early not only gives you the freedom to book flights at a cheaper rate but you can select the best seats too. Involve the kids and grandparents while planning the destination, you will be amazed to hear their inputs. When you have lots of time on your hands before the vacation, you can invest more time in choosing the best resort for your stay. We make sure that the resort is kid-friendly and have comfortable cozy rooms. Also, make sure that you share all the details with your parents so that they too have enough time to make up their minds for the kind of holiday they are going to have. Trust me after 60, parents take their time to soak in details and get ready mentally. But once they are ready, nobody can stop them from having the fun.

2. Select a non-touristy place/location to get the best out of your vacation.

Now, this could get difficult to plan sometimes, but there are many famous destinations which have a part which remains untouched by tourists. We don’t like places which are always beaming with people all around. Vacation should have a motive, and if your aim is not to explore the whole place which is anyhow not possible with kids and elderly then make relaxation and rejuvenation your main priority. During our trip to Kerala, we chose places like Athirapilly, Munnar and Alleppey houseboat for our stay. Nemit and his grandmothers had an awesome time in the God’s own country.

3. Plan for relaxing trips without much of traveling as that is exhausting for both kids & elderly.

We all know how tiring it gets if we have to explore various locations and places during the trip. Plan the itinerary such that you include only 2-3 nearby locations which can be easily covered and everybody gets enough time to rest and relax. Usually, during our earlier trips, we would get ready around 9 am and leave the hotel to explore nearby places and would come back only around late evening. Don’t ever plan such itineraries when you have kids and their grandparents along. This will only leave them exhausted and irritated. Gift them a relaxing holiday.

4. If possible book a resort which has connecting rooms so that you can be together all the time.

You will thank me later for this tip. If you can find such resorts which have villas with 2 rooms or connecting rooms, nothing could be better than this. If somehow you are unable to get connecting rooms, do check with the resort management for adjacent rooms or cottages whichever you prefer. It will feel just like home.

5. Lastly, plan activities which are easy and can be enjoyed together.

With this I mean the activities you wish to do on your vacation, be it fun, adventure or just lazying around. You can’t tell your parents to try paragliding or river rafting neither your young kids can enjoy these. However, everyone can enjoy boat rides in place of river rafting and peaceful small walks in place of long trekking. Don’t shy away from asking your parents about their wishlist. I am sure they will share their own ideas of how they wish to enjoy the holiday. One last point, deep inside we feel happy that we will have someone who will take care of kids along with us on the holiday but doesn’t take that for granted. Let them make memories with their kids and grandkids and cherish them forever.

We made some best memories during our last vacations. And one of the best ways for kids to stay connected with grandparents is to travel together.

This post is part of the blog train which is initiated by a lovely mom Pooja Kawatra of  The Mums and Babies. I want to thank Upasana Goswami who blogs at M & M for introducing me as the next blogger.

Got a story to share with us on how to ‘Stay connected with grandparents’? Hop on this Blog Train where some wonderful mom bloggers share their views on this theme!!

It’s time to move ahead and meet our next awesome mom blogger. Rashmi Singh is a mother of a cute baby boy Ajisth. She is a teacher by profession and blogger by passion. She loves to share her daily life and parenting style through her blog Ajisth’s MomStyle. Do check out her post and show some love.

And if you liked this post then don’t forget to share it with your friends and family. And I love it when you leave some comments or feedback for me 🙂 So what are you waiting for guys? Tell me about the trip you planned for your kids and their grandparents.

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Gender equality is not a woman’s issue, it is a human issue.

It affects us all.

International Women’s day is held on 8th March every year to celebrate social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women all over the world. The theme for this year’s campaign was #PressforProgress and commit to a Gender Parity mindset. Women all over the world are talking about bringing in the change, activists are running various campaigns and movements to empower women for a better tomorrow.

It’s almost a week now that we celebrated Women’s Day, but the celebrations didn’t end there. Neither the campaigns nor the movements. Like many other women out there, I too decided to be a part of the campaign this time by voicing my views and opinions and taking a pledge to #PressforProgress. I wrote a post supporting this on my Instagram, which I am sharing below, click on the below picture to read the caption.

A post shared by Neha Sharma (@growing_with_nemit) on Mar 8, 2018 at 5:50am PST

We have come a long way in this fight for equality still there’s a lot to be done and change. But I never understood why do we have to fight so much for something which belongs to everyone. The Rights, either they belong to everyone or to none. Why are the privileges being asked for? The other half of the population who is making this task difficult for the world need to open up their mind and see. And let me tell you this other half doesn’t only consist of men but also the women who should be ashamed of their mindset.

Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.

– G.D Anderson

The change we seek!

I remember when I was a kid, I used to fight a lot with my relatives for things which they claimed are meant for boys only. For instance, I was not allowed to play outside until late but my male cousins were free to roam around with their friends and were never questioned. I was looked down upon whenever I wore shorts or behaved in a manner which was meant appropriate only for the boys. My cousin sisters were not even encouraged to study further even if they wanted to. Why do we create this gap between genders from such a small age?

Now the times have changed, girls are given more freedom, parents are more considerate of the girl child, they are given equal opportunities and support from the society to a great extent. Still, the gender disparity is an issue as the gap has not yet narrowed down. Now the problems are different but they are there.

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A few days back I read this quote somewhere, which said ‘I don’t want a girl child as I am afraid that she will get raped someday.‘ This broke me from inside because somewhere deep down I knew this is the reality. There are no strict laws for such heinous crimes in a country like ours. We want a better world where the women feel secure and respected.

We got to work together to bring about that change, Women’s day is the reminder we set every year to refresh our aims & remind ourselves of what we deserve. All of us, should make our daughters strong if the laws are taking time to be in place. And have to teach our sons the true meaning of respect and strength. Women have to support each other rather than fight and compete aimlessly.

The fear is within and we have to fight it together. I am fighting it, are you?

Let’s pledge to fight gender disparity starting from our own homes.

#Letsadorewomanhood

#PressforProgress

A post shared by Neha Sharma (@growing_with_nemit) on Mar 7, 2018 at 9:19pm PST

Thanks for reading. If you liked this post, then do share it with your friends and family.

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