How to deal with Toddler Tantrums? Everyone wants to know the answer to this question. Well, in my last 3 years of parenting journey, I have learned that instead of reacting to difficult situations, responding calmly helps the best. I am telling you this because I’m experienced now. But if I tell you to follow this, most probably, you will fail.
Don’t be…! I will explain.
All the parents reading this post must very well know that it’s not at all easy to be a mommy or a daddy. It takes a lot of effort, patience, learning & failings to actually feel proud of being a parent. When I was a new mom, I would often fight with myself. Because I used to think I was a very bad mother. And that I was doing everything wrong. Even the new father (my husband) would feel confused about not understanding a crying baby. It was big CHAOS!
But then with time, we learned the tricks. Tricks to handle a baby! It all seemed easy breezy. Life became Happy.
This happiness started fading away soon when we realized the baby is no more a baby, he’s a toddler now. Oh my God & all our tricks became trash in no time. The once proud self-boasting parents fell into a deep dark pit, an unknown unexplored territory of parenting. A place where tantrums ruled, yes, the toddler tantrums!
Toddlers may look charming and entertaining but don’t get fooled by their antics.
One minute they will look so happy & even share their fav meal with you. And the very next moment you’ll find them screaming & rolling on the floor demanding to give back that bite you just finished.
PARENTING is CHALLENGING as well as CONFUSING!
But hey, with time comes experience. We start understanding our own GENES!!!
Just a month ago, our son turned 3 years old. And we are literally juggling between a toddler and a preschooler stage now. Preschooler stage is even more confusing and ever difficult than dealing with toddler tantrums. These kids think that they know everything & they keep asking you questions all the time. Not only this, they demand an answer on the spot otherwise a tantrum may follow.
Anyways, am not going to dive into this topic. I will now share how we survived the toddler stage. Please note, our mantra may or may not work for you. So, use them at your own discretion.
We have a 5-step Parenting Mantra for dealing with toddler tantrums
Step 1- Breathe and take it easy
Simplest of all, whenever you sense a tantrum, and there’s nothing, literally nothing you can do about it. Just close your eyes! And, Take a Deep Breath!
If it doesn’t calm your senses, move on to the next step.
Step 2- Remind yourself this too shall pass
With eyes still closed & breaths getting deeper, just go back in time when your baby was little. Keep going and stop when you see a cute face with the prettiest smile. Remind yourself, this is your baby & he is still cute. And this time too shall pass!
Suddenly, you break away from your deep meditation & hear loud screaming & thumping sounds.
Step 3- Just go away from the scene
The toddler is now looking at you from the corner of his eye & probably he’s thinking why you’re not responding. That’s the point when they want to try their best skills to annoy you further. Don’t get fooled here! Just go away from the scene.
Oh no, you lost your cool with slightest provoking. The next step is the favorite of every mother. Yelling. But, it seldom works on toddlers. So, AVOID!
What now? The toddler is looking directly into your eyes & giving you a wicked smile. You are about to have a breakdown. Just hang in there and call for help!
Step 4- Ask for help. Call your partner!
This is your time to save yourself. If your partner is around, it’s their turn to take control of the situation. You need to have some kind of emergency call out code. So that your partner or if not a partner then someone else from the family should reach out to you immediately.
What if? What if you are all alone!
Step 5- Just say ‘I Love You’ and give a ‘Big Bear Hug’ to your toddler
This works, trust me! But it will work once you are drained out of energy and on the brink of passing out. Also, by this time, your toddler is almost bored with this tantrum game. They forget you forgive (or vice versa) and everything’s back to normal.
So, that’s it, guys. This is our #momology or parenting mantra when it comes to dealing with toddler tantrums or some tricky situations. A hug and a kiss can never go wrong!
This month I am participating in the #Momology Blog Train. And, this is my 1st post of the blog train on Prompt 1.
Prompt 1 – What is your secret and most effective #Momology or Parenting Mantra that comes handy in most tricky situations
This blog train hosted by Thoughts byGeethica, Slimexpectations, Mummasaurus, and Truly Yours Roma sponsored by FirstCry Intellikit, Instacuppa, Diet Funda, Hugs n tugs, Tina Basu, Unorthodoxpeeps, Lotus Herbals baby and Shumee toys.